tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8434791093329368378.comments2015-10-21T13:26:19.474-07:00just for the health of itAdventures in Healinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11535749998855891106noreply@blogger.comBlogger37125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8434791093329368378.post-3440878518571994372015-01-23T09:04:42.587-08:002015-01-23T09:04:42.587-08:00Thanks so much for your kind comments (everyone re...Thanks so much for your kind comments (everyone really!). I took a break from writing for a time, but am back at it at my new website, www.realhala.com I plan to write a lot more about weight loss from a gospel perspective among other topics. Thanks for sharing your resources. :)Adventures in Healinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11535749998855891106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8434791093329368378.post-53352220509886977842015-01-22T20:26:49.593-08:002015-01-22T20:26:49.593-08:00Wow, great post on the Word of Wisdom! One of the ...Wow, great post on the Word of Wisdom! One of the best I have read in a long time. Thanks for sharing from the heart! I’ve been writing on the “Word of Wisdom Way to Weight Loss,” if you are interested: http://ldsmag.com/the-word-of-wisdom-way-to-weight-loss-the-end-of-dieting/. You can find all the articles here, including one on food addiction: http://discoveringthewordofwisdom.com/qas/weight-loss/. Bless you!Jane Birchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13516976650739465703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8434791093329368378.post-50237077326081472702014-10-16T06:34:22.295-07:002014-10-16T06:34:22.295-07:00I just found this blog post today. I agree with yo...I just found this blog post today. I agree with your thoughts completely and am so glad you chose to share your feelings about Shakeology. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10731754309771548444noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8434791093329368378.post-65797601094111055882014-05-28T22:17:06.995-07:002014-05-28T22:17:06.995-07:00BRAVO! Thank you for sharing, thank you for owning...BRAVO! Thank you for sharing, thank you for owning, thank you for being a voice to the countless silent moments that women experience. These stories must be shared. Sharing is how we will eventually, hopefully, stop violence toward women. Sharing is how we will validate all other women. Sharing shamelessly is how we will fight back against our violent, misogynistic society. Stephanie Markelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06891896294343592765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8434791093329368378.post-28570261330595411382014-05-21T18:30:32.208-07:002014-05-21T18:30:32.208-07:00I had a similar experience recently... the perpetr...I had a similar experience recently... the perpetrator (someone still in my life) minimized and even denied by pain. It hurts. I really appreciate this post. Thank you for sharing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8434791093329368378.post-59087073064886011702014-05-07T15:47:26.421-07:002014-05-07T15:47:26.421-07:00HOLY MOLY. I didn't know it contained green te...HOLY MOLY. I didn't know it contained green tea. I've never had it, but I know plenty of LDS folks who swear by it. That's crazy! Good for you and your conviction. That's awesome. Amommyoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00470654647798070787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8434791093329368378.post-19339319014022420292014-05-07T12:25:07.840-07:002014-05-07T12:25:07.840-07:00Thank you! That comment seriously means a lot to ...Thank you! That comment seriously means a lot to me! If I blessed just one person then it's worth it to put myself out there. ;) (p.s. you can totally friend me on FB and get to know me. I don't bite:) )Adventures in Healinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11535749998855891106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8434791093329368378.post-781601389113527332014-05-07T09:17:21.277-07:002014-05-07T09:17:21.277-07:00I wish I knew you! Thank-you for sharing your bel...I wish I knew you! Thank-you for sharing your beliefs, commitment and journey. You blessed my life today!!<br /><br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12001354217705681231noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8434791093329368378.post-70406804163932176822013-08-08T16:41:31.379-07:002013-08-08T16:41:31.379-07:00Thanks girl. Right back at ya! :)Thanks girl. Right back at ya! :)Adventures in Healinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11535749998855891106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8434791093329368378.post-16110821836160894532013-08-08T14:33:49.187-07:002013-08-08T14:33:49.187-07:00"There's someone who gets it and in the e..."There's someone who gets it and in the end He is all that matters." - THAT is powerful lady. All of your experiences have brought you to where you are and you are beautiful and learning and striving and focusing on the Lord and THAT is beautiful. It reminds me of a new favorite scriptures: "For behold, I have refined thee, I have chosen thee in the furnace of affliction." 1 Nephi 20:10.<br /><br />Proud of you for where you are and what you're accomplishing. You're an example to me. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8434791093329368378.post-1108551844571876082013-08-07T22:58:17.181-07:002013-08-07T22:58:17.181-07:00Thanks Dan!!Thanks Dan!!Adventures in Healinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11535749998855891106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8434791093329368378.post-11887868994335365002013-08-07T15:57:07.441-07:002013-08-07T15:57:07.441-07:00Amazing transformation! Way to go, Heather!Amazing transformation! Way to go, Heather!Dan https://www.blogger.com/profile/15369849116048279314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8434791093329368378.post-8989626084062772752013-08-01T11:03:33.040-07:002013-08-01T11:03:33.040-07:00Right. I know that is precisely my problem. I...Right. I know that is precisely my problem. I've had it before in a different situation. ;) Forgiveness is not a dependent action. Wouldn't it be easier if it we just got the apologies we deserved? :) <br /><br />I think I am trying to 'force' the issue because of the upcoming temple visit with the family. Like you said, taking a step back may be best. Having faith that if my heart is in the right place and if the desire is there, then it will work out and I don't need to worry about having a perfect heart toward them before seeing them in the temple.Adventures in Healinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11535749998855891106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8434791093329368378.post-61563924499555783262013-08-01T00:44:19.952-07:002013-08-01T00:44:19.952-07:00See - you're a bit skewed here. "I feel t...See - you're a bit skewed here. "I feel the other won't forgive, and so I must"... "of you it is required to forgive all"...<br /><br />Your forgiveness shouldn't be dependent on another't forgiveness, or apology or action.. we are to strive to give our forgiveness always, no matter what.<br /><br />I feel like it might be good for you to take some steps back and remover yourself from the situation. It's like you still have a shoe rubbing against a blister. The shoe is good, in itself. But you need to remove it for a while in order to let the wound heal up.<br /><br />Also, there is a difference between working the steps daily, overall and working them for something specific. If I am struggling with something, for instance, I will work a 1-2-3 for it and actually go to the step and read it with my specific issue in mind, and answer the questions with my specific issue in mind. This helps me really see things more clearly.<br /><br />:-)The Lighthouse Coalitionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07313283867022797916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8434791093329368378.post-59563480510284106422013-07-31T23:30:56.839-07:002013-07-31T23:30:56.839-07:00Tim, I sort of feel like having facilitated a grou...Tim, I sort of feel like having facilitated a group for a year and half I've gone through the steps so many times that they just sort of naturally flow in my head. I don't know if that makes any sense. I feel like the quote you shared is precisely where my desire is coming from. I feel like the other won't forgive (which, I know, is a judgement on my part and wrong of me) and so I must. I want to let it go, but I keep picking it back up. Maybe now is not the time? Maybe I need to be okay with stepping back and starting intensively working each step individually from my new perspective? I'm working on that as I put together this compilation of the different programs.<br /><br />I was just about to say 'Do you think that God is okay with us not forgiving right away and not pushing for it by a timetable?' Then I realized I already knew the answer....just like any other WoPA. ;)Adventures in Healinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11535749998855891106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8434791093329368378.post-25866291571704547092013-07-31T23:21:54.255-07:002013-07-31T23:21:54.255-07:00Oh that is what I needed to hear! Thank you! I nev...Oh that is what I needed to hear! Thank you! I never thought about the aching for the healing being an expectation, but you are right. Adventures in Healinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11535749998855891106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8434791093329368378.post-79277338104460156562013-07-31T22:34:38.625-07:002013-07-31T22:34:38.625-07:00I guess the 2 things I would say are first off. G...I guess the 2 things I would say are first off. Getting ahead of yourself in the steps can be super scary. I know the first time I read Step 9 I thought it would be impossible. Not now that I am working on Step 8, it doesn't seem so daunting. Working each step prepares us for the ones to come. So if you're not on 8 and 9, you don't have to stress about them yet.<br /><br />Secondly, I thought of the following quote from Step 8 in the LDS ARP manual as I read your post;<br /><br />"Before you make a list of people from whom you need to seek forgiveness, first list those people you need to forgive. Don’t be surprised if some names appear on both lists. People often get caught in terrible cycles of exchanging hurts with others. To break these cycles of mutual resentment, someone has to be willing to forgive."<br /><br />It definitely sounds like this is your situation and working an 8 and 9 will be a great way to come to terms with it. The only way the relationship can heal is when someone breaks the cycle of hurt. Ultimately forgiveness is for you, not those you are forgiving. Letting these feelings go will only make you lighter, freer and happier. Its hard but the Lord will always be there to help you. <br />Timhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03350255184351877728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8434791093329368378.post-73407191758325492272013-07-31T22:18:15.005-07:002013-07-31T22:18:15.005-07:00I'm sorry you are struggling with stuff! No f...I'm sorry you are struggling with stuff! No fun!! Step's 8 and 9 are sometimes the most difficult. For me, I found it much easier to forgive once I took out any and all expectation. At one point you mentioned that your heart aches to heal damaged relationships... THAT is an expectation. Only the Lord can heal them, not you. All you can do is offer up your humble accountability, face forward, and strive to do better. The Lord does the rest. The only expectation necessary is the expectation to feel awesome for doing what the Lord wants.<br /><br />The family dynamic you describe is somewhat like mine... clear boundaries need to be set. Lies being told about you are chains bound around the liar, not around you. There is no need to own that. If the relationship is so toxic, don't hesitate to pull back. <br /><br />I love your honesty throughout this post... and I love YOU!The Lighthouse Coalitionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07313283867022797916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8434791093329368378.post-25371543292183405112013-07-10T09:36:20.514-07:002013-07-10T09:36:20.514-07:00Chills as I read this, tender mercies are so amazi...Chills as I read this, tender mercies are so amazing. The Lord is truly mindful of each of His children. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8434791093329368378.post-4910087375933911982013-07-09T22:55:31.793-07:002013-07-09T22:55:31.793-07:00Beautiful. Thanks for sharing this. It brought tea...Beautiful. Thanks for sharing this. It brought tears to my eyes!MMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13879982043254192074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8434791093329368378.post-49206856833010923162013-06-29T07:53:01.553-07:002013-06-29T07:53:01.553-07:00Cool. I like your end perspective on that experien...Cool. I like your end perspective on that experience. I'm sure NONE of it was coincidence even if the end result wasn't that you weren't on the show. Your experience and testimony was shared with others, others you'd probably never reach before and I can't help but believe one of those producers was touched by that.iheartseattlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00997555421309989536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8434791093329368378.post-44142105398760991062013-06-28T14:38:26.698-07:002013-06-28T14:38:26.698-07:00What a perfect way to put it. I am going to have ...What a perfect way to put it. I am going to have to remember that as a comeback the next time someone gives me crap for telling it like it is. :)Adventures in Healinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11535749998855891106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8434791093329368378.post-90343713595403831842013-06-28T14:37:51.233-07:002013-06-28T14:37:51.233-07:00Thank you Annette! I love yours as well. Your co...Thank you Annette! I love yours as well. Your comment was just what I needed when I needed it (and they usually are). Thanks!!Adventures in Healinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11535749998855891106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8434791093329368378.post-77270332674643089172013-06-25T10:23:21.550-07:002013-06-25T10:23:21.550-07:00You are wonderful! I do agree that life doesn'...You are wonderful! I do agree that life doesn't have to be perfect and happy all the time! It if was, how would we know to appreciate the good times? :) Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03490721149214412586noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8434791093329368378.post-62120963006348330612013-06-24T21:22:26.554-07:002013-06-24T21:22:26.554-07:00Dude. You're pretty awesome. :) I love all the...Dude. You're pretty awesome. :) I love all the encouragement I get from you. I love your blog too, it's fun to get to 'know' you reading it. You are strong and seem to be continually discovering new things about yourself. You help me to ask questions about myself too and I always appreciate that. I am sure you are to do great things as well. Be patient and keep searching and the Lord will guid you. Love ya lady!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com